Go with what matters

Go with what matters, go with what matters. Forget the new year's resolutions, if you're watching me live, maybe some of you have set new year's resolutions. Maybe you are. Maybe you are setting those new year's resolutions, maybe you're writing down all of your goals, those things are okay. But I have a very different perspective this year. I have always set plans for my years. For my years I have got I've always gotten things together in January, this is what I want to accomplish this year. And this is what I want to do and and this is how I'm going to do it. This year, my focus is very different. This year, my focus is on go with what really matters. Go with what really matters. If I don't make a financial goal. If I don't make a book sales goal, or a CBD oil sales goal or core sales goal, or I don't book as many speaking engagements as I would have liked to. It's okay. It's okay. Because my focus this year is on what really matters is he plans will sometimes fail. But love never will. Sometimes we won't meet every single resolution, I'm going to lose so many pounds this year. What if we focused instead on the feelings and our relationships? What if we allowed life to be easy? What if we allowed life to be fun? What if we chose to focus on relationships in our lives? What if we just approached this very differently? What if we thought about not exactly the things we want to do but maybe the people that we want to do them with? It's a very different it's a very different mindset for me. It's a very powerful shift that I have had in my life. thinking of going into this year. And though I don't like to look in the rearview mirror much. Sometimes it's important to get that perspective. In order to shift our perspective going forward, we want to just kind of take that brief look back, we don't want to stare in the back, we don't want to always be focused on that rearview mirror.

But we want to look at that a little bit. So this colonoscopy, this screening colonoscopy I had where they found cancer was actually scheduled for this past summer. I rescheduled it four times when I finally had it done in December, it was the fourth rescheduled time. The fourth, because I was so busy, and I was doing this and I was doing that I can put it off, I can put it off, I can put it off. Shouldn't have been putting it off. I was focused on the wrong things. I was focused on a number I was focused on a goal I was focused on being busy, I was just focused on all these things. Whether instead, if I had been focused on keeping myself healthy self care, really taking care of me focused on the on relationship is focused on the feelings not making life so hard and so busy, would have made time for that this past summer. So that's the lesson I learned making my health a priority. Because when I do that, I have so much more energy to reach out then and, and focus on other people. Here, you can't do that. If you're too tired. If you're too stressed out, you just stress creates business business, kills productivity business kills relationships. business seals your life. business is just a way to procrastinate really doing what's important. And procrastination, as Brian Tracy says, will not only steal your time it will steal your life. So this year, this year, I am going to challenge you to really focus on what matters go with what matters. Your relationships matter.

I remember a time in the past when we had friends that would invite us out a lot. And the answer was always No. I was too busy. I was transcribing medical records at the time. And sometimes the evening was when the time was the time when the doctors would have all of their reports in and I would be typing these medical reports. And the answer was always No. And I remember I remember this person saying on yet another time when I said no, I just I just can't I have so much work to do. And the end he said, you know, too much work makes Carrie not a happy person. I've never forgotten that. It's just taken me a little bit of time to really grasp hold of those words, too much work. Let's just take it further. Too much work makes us sick. Too much work makes us unhappy. Too much work makes us busy. And it kills our relationships. And when we get to the end of when we get to our last breath, if we look back, what are we going to focus on our relationships, our love, I don't want you waking up one day, and realizing that you missed you missed the picture. You missed what was really, really important. You missed building those relationships. You missed spending time with your kids, you miss spending time with your siblings, you spent so much time being angry over something that didn't even matter that you missed, what really matters. What really matters, plans are going to fail. Love never does. And where we are today. This is something else that has just been so so heavy on my heart to share. And we've heard it you have probably heard this a zillion times. But where you are today is not a direct result of who you are. It's a direct result of who you were, where you are today, your weight, your bank account where you're working, your joy level, your relationships, status. All of those things are a direct result of who you were in the past and you don't have to be that person any more. You get to start choosing what really matters. You get to choose those things starting today starting right now. So that when you look ahead, you can see a much better, brighter picture. You can see the you that you want to become You get to choose who you are becoming this point in time today is the result of who you were choices you made in the past things you can see looking through that rearview mirror. But when you're looking through the windshield, you get to choose who you want to become. It is your choice. Focus on what matters. Focus on what matters. What if, what if you joined a gym? It's January. So you know, people are joining gyms or buying at home workout programs, maybe more so this year. But what if instead of of setting out your three month schedule of the exact workouts you're going to do and all this stuff? What if you just said, I'm going to have fun? I'm going to move my body and have fun. What if instead of mapping out all of the books you're going to read this year, you just picked up a book and decided to enjoy the time reading? Or what if you decided to create time and space for your friends in your life this year? What if that is your goal for 2021 is to have fun, and create stronger relationships and take care of yourself. What if those are your two, your three top things you're going to take care of you, you're going to take care of your relationships, and you're going to have more fun. Imagine what 2021 will be like, because we try to make things too hard. We believe this lie that life has to be hard work has to be hard. We've believed all of this, and it's not true. We get to choose to have that fun. We get to choose to build those relationships, we get to choose who we are becoming. So here's what I encourage you to do. start, start reflecting, grab a journal and start reflecting based on your life right now. Take a screenshot of your life right now today.

What do you want to keep? And what do you want to change? What decisions have you made in the past that you're going? Yeah, they were good? And what decisions do you want to put away and say, I'm choosing better in the future? Take some time to reflect that out. And then write down relationships that you want to focus on. How much do you want to build your own self worth? Because here's the here's the beauty of that when you start believing in your own self worth, you start being able to love others more. When you focus on their strengths. You get more of their strengths back is where your focus goes. I don't care how many pounds you lose this year. I don't care how much money you make this year. I do care about how much you take care of yourself. Get your screenings done, and stop procrastinating them out. Just make the appointment, make the time, enjoy the day, take the whole day off, have your mammogram, take the whole day off, have your screening colonoscopy, take the whole day off you kind of have to anyway, put under that word for that one. But get those screening things done. Get a blood panel done. Work with a naturopath, get your hormones checked. Take care of you. What if that's what you do in 2021? What have you focus on, on fixing relationships that are broken in your life? What if you work on becoming the best version of yourself so that those relationships organically heal? Because because we think we have to fix the other person, the person that wrong does the person we think we have to wait for them to change, no change you change you go with what matters, go with what matters. numbers on a scale numbers in a checkbook. Those all fall in place. When you take care of you.

When you focus on what matters everything falls into place. We've just been focusing on the wrong thing. So as I am as I am heading into surgery, if you're listening to the podcast, when this podcast drops, it will just be probably about the same time as I am heading into the operating room. This has changed everything for me. This has changed my focus it has changed how I look at how I want my year to go. It's a wake up call. I want you to embrace what matters without having to have that wake up call in your life. Take my wake up call as yours. I'm sharing it. It is yours to use. Take it put it in your life and put it in to practice your wake up call. I'm sharing my wake up call with you Go with what matters. Go with what matters. Your journal prompt today is to take that reflection. Take that reflection and your journal prompt then after you do that reflection time is where do I need to focus, my love? Where do I need to focus my love? What relationships? What about yourself and who you are becoming? How do you have to change how you see yourself? How do you have to change how you see others? Where are you focusing your love and becoming the person you were created to be? I love you.