What If You Had Taken That Other Path in Life?
What If You Had Taken That Other Path?
Have you ever caught yourself saying, “If only I had taken that opportunity…” or “Where would I be now if I had said yes back then?” Yeah, me too. It's a common conversation I have with friends, clients, and sometimes just with myself. And recently, I had one of those heart-to-hearts with a friend who said those exact words.
“If only I had taken that offer... my life would be so much better.”
Would it though?
We started unpacking that. Because here's the truth: we don’t know. You don’t know how things might have turned out. That’s not a fact. That’s speculation—and living in speculation takes your energy and focus away from the only place you can actually make a difference: right now.
Let’s Get Real: You Can’t Rewrite the Past
Looking back on old decisions and trying to reimagine a different life path can keep you stuck. If you're standing in a place today that you don’t love, you get to change it. You get to take back the pen and write the next chapter, the one that starts now.
Did you miss an opportunity to move across the country? Start creating that chance now. Wish you'd started a podcast years ago? Press record. Want to work out at 5 a.m. every morning? You can start tomorrow. You can start tonight by going to bed on time. It’s that simple. Not easy, maybe. But simple.
Stop Sitting in the Problem
We waste so much time sitting in the problem, rehashing it, digging deeper into it. And the more you sit in the regret, the more regret you call into your life. You create more of what you’re focused on. That’s not just a quote from a self-help book. It’s truth. I’ve lived it. You’ve lived it.
But if you shift your focus to the solution—even a small one—you start calling in change. You shift the energy. You start writing the life you actually want.
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Your Past Doesn’t Get to Write Your Future
I’m not saying your past doesn’t matter. It does. It shaped you. It taught you. But it doesn’t get to dictate your future unless you let it. I’ve been struggling with getting places on time. It’s not who I want to be, and I’m changing that. I’m committing to getting to bed earlier, setting myself up for success, and creating the mornings I used to love. That’s my current pivot.
So, I’ll pinky swear with you right now: I’m in bed on time tonight, and up early tomorrow—working out, reading, feeling great. Why? Because that’s the version of me I want to show up as, and I get to choose her again every single day.
Here’s Your Journal Prompt
This is your moment to reflect. No shame. No guilt. Just honesty.
What do you truly want?
Write it down. Sit with it. Choose one of those things and map out a step. Just one step. Then take it. Then take another. And then another. You don’t need a 10-year plan. You just need a direction and the courage to move in it.
You don’t live in yesterday. You don’t live in later. You live in now.
Go after the life you want. Unashamed. Confident. Kind. And bold.
Because I’m here cheering you on, and I always will be.
You’ve got this.
—CarrieV
