Destructive Assumptions

Our negative thoughts often come from things we assume others are thinking.

I've heard it said that entrepreneurs watch television and movies in a different way than other people do. And that we are always looking for a message or always looking for a life hack or something will come out in coming out to us in that hour or two hours or whatever it is. And I have found that to be very, very true, especially lately.

I always find something recently we watch the sound of music, which I love. I don't know where you are. I don't know where you are on the sound of music spectrum, but I am if this is I hate it. And this is I love it. I'm somewhere here. I absolutely love the sound of music. I love singing along with it. I love Oh, just all the actors. It makes me cry. It makes me laugh. I love Love, love the movie. When I watched it recently, though, it's been years since I watched it. And since I've watched it last I have started my own business starting my own coaching practice, developed online courses, written books. I

t's just it's a whole different world for me now.

Now watching the sound of music and hearing hearing that one of the very first songs Julie Andrews sings is all about confidence. While I'm showing them I'm going to show me that I am so confident I was like, Oh, why did I never hear that song really hear that song before like I did now or climb every mountain. And you know what I'm getting ahead of myself, that's going to be a whole different video. Today, I want to talk about another show that I'm watching which shall remain nameless. And I can name it for you because I don't want to spoiler alert for you. But in this series that I'm watching, one of the young women characters is terrorized by hallucinations by someone who has died to tragic death. And as this person is terrorizing her, he is putting it's not it's not scenes like you would see in a horror movie where there's just blood and gore everywhere. What this person does, how he gives her hallucinations. How He terrorizes her is he turns her own negative thoughts against herself. He takes her own thoughts and turns them against her. So he's got a slew of things to turn against her. He takes her own her own insecurities, and he uses them against her. But even more interesting, this was the part that got me re rewinding.

You don't do anymore. But taking, taking it back more and more and watching the same scenes over and over again so I could extract the lessons from them. What got me the most was that what he used against her most against her the most was not necessarily her own negative thoughts. They were, but they were deeper than that he would use against her what she assumed other people were thinking about her and her situation and the way they would judge her not necessarily, in fact, not even much that they actually said to her, but how she assumed they would react to her what she assumed they were thinking what she assumed they would say if they were here, and he took all those things and use them against her to absolutely send her over the edge. And that was his whole. His whole plan was to destroy her by turning her negativity against herself by making her feel so insecure and so so that she was assuming someone would say it would be better if you had never been born. That person never said that. And most likely never would say that never was thinking that but she thought she assumed that they were and that's what she turned. That's what he turned against her to terrorize her to absolutely try and send her over the edge where her own negative thoughts and worse than that what she assumed other people were thinking about her very eye opening for me because how often do we do that? How often do we assume what somebody else's thinking about us or saying about us? Here's a newsflash, they're not thinking about you, they're not thinking about me. They're busy planning out their own lives.

Stop assuming what other people are going to think stop assuming what other people would say. It doesn't matter. Let's say they were saying those things, it doesn't matter anyway, it doesn't matter. What matters is that you are living the life you were designed and created to live. That is what matters. That's what matters. But instead, we assume what other people are thinking what other people will say what other people are doing. We assume all these things. And we let it start to ruminate in our heads. And we let our mean girl or our mean guy attached to them, and then turn them against ourselves. That's exactly what this character did against this other character in this show I'm watching. It was fascinating, fascinating, that what he used against her what he used against her were her own negative thoughts and her own insecure thoughts that she had about herself. That's what he turned on her. And that's what our inner voices do to us all the time. You're too old. You're too young. You don't know enough. You don't you don't know the right people, you don't have enough money. You don't have you're not a risk taker. You can't follow your dreams. It's all Bs, all of it. You are assuming what other people think you're assuming you're assuming things you are letting negativity fill your mind and keeping you stuck.

Cut it out. Promise me that you will cut it out.

Now, not not tomorrow morning. But this moment, right now you're going to stop with the negative thoughts. You're going to stop with the negative spiral, you're going to stop assuming what other people are thinking because even if it's true, it doesn't matter. This is your life. You get to live your life, you get to claim a hold of your dreams, you get to step into your own superpower, your pop house shoes, you get to choose all of those things. And I don't care if you are 20 5080. I don't care how old you are. It is your life to live. And you get to make your choices and your actions are driven by your thoughts and your actions create your reality. You get to do all of that. So turn off your mind from the negativity stop using it against yourself. fill your mind with the positive and here's one for you. You're amazing. You are amazing, confident, fabulous. life changing. That's who you are.

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