Complain-it is

If you want to complain about something, you will find something to complain about.

Ever wonder why sometimes we find ourselves in a complaining mood. I mean, it happens to all of us, we get to this space where we're where we find ourselves complaining about everything. And if we don't stop ourselves, it can become a way of life. And we don't want that.

We're going to talk about complain-itis today. I was unloading the dishwasher this morning. And I was like, I really hate unloading the dishwasher. And I stopped myself. And I thought, well, I could not have a dishwasher. I could hand wash everything, and have to do that four or five times a day instead of rinsing dishes and putting them in the dishwasher. I mean, think about it. We complain about doing dishes, but we complain about unloading a dishwasher and it washed all the dishes for us. Or how about this one? Which car should we take? I don't know. Then you spend times discussing which car you're going to take when I was a kid. It wasn't “Hey, guys get in the car. Sure, Mom, which car should we get in?” It was simply we got in the car because there was one. When my kids were little it was getting in the car, we had one. So why do we spend time or have this kind of I've got a wax both cars today? Why not? instead be grateful for the two cars that we have to choose from, or this one.

This one, I'm guilty of, I really hate putting the laundry away. I will wash and fold laundry all day long. But putting it away. Hmm, it'd be a whole lot easier to put away. Putting it away would be really easy if I had like one blue polka dotted dress and one yellow sweater washed every day really never have to hang it up. Because it's going to go back on my body every single day. Because it's all I have, I have been able to visit third world countries where I had child, children that I sponsored. And guess what they have, one outfit, maybe two. They don't have to worry about putting clothes away because there aren't any to put away. So if we just shift our focus a little bit, we can shift our attitude. But why do we even Why do we fall into complaining? What is the whole purpose of complaining because here's the truth, just like the dishwasher, the cars, the clothes, if we want something to complain about, we can find something to complain about every single day, you can find things to complain about, or you can find things to be grateful for and it is your choice.

So why do we complain?

Well, it gets us attention, right? People will listen to us when we complain or so we think but it gives us attention. It also allows us to avoid responsibility. Avoid responsibility, if we complain about it, let's say let's say we kind of are blaming somebody else for something and are complaining, we don't have to take responsibility. Like the course was it was just too hard. It was too hard. And it was awful. And they didn't have the questions written right. And, and I couldn't do it because because they didn't they didn't do their live videos when they said they were going to do them.

We complain about it, we don't have to take responsibility. Another thing is that it is kind of a form of bragging or power over others. So if I say My boss is so stupid, what I'm really saying is I'm way smarter than he is, which might be true. He is he I'm way smarter than he is. And he kind of gets you on my side which I might need someday, right? I might need you on my side someday. So if I complain and get you in complaining with me, we've formed a bond now where I have power because I started complaining, which brings me to that. That fact that complaining is contagious. If you enter a group and you start complaining someone else is going to and then someone else is like a yawn. Like yawn spread through a crowd. So does complaining because because misery loves company and somebody will say, Oh, yeah, yeah, I know that why I once had this and they will just join right in, it becomes a it becomes a necessity cesspool of complaining, that's how contagious it is. But so is a good attitude. So really, really, really stop. Stop the complaining, which is just excuse making, avoiding taking responsibility. It's bragging, it's a power thing. It's to get attention. That's what complaining is. If you spend your time complaining and dragging everybody else into complaining with you, nobody has to take responsibility for their own lives. Nobody has to rise up to the occasion because you're too busy, busy living in this little tiny hole of complaining.

It's a it's an awful place to live. I've done it. I have done it. Worse yet. I have dragged my kids into it with me.

And to turn it around then it had to be me that started to turn it around and not complain about every little thing. If you can't control the situation Anyway, why bother wasting energy complaining about it? We could sit around complaining about wearing masks and and COVID What good does that do? turn things around to a positive before it leaves your mouth before that complaint leaves your mouth, catch it in your head, toss it aside, catch it, release it, catch it, release it, and let a positive comment come out your mouth. So going back to the dishwasher, I am so thankful I did not have to wash all these dishes. All I have to do is put these sparkling clean, dry dishes away. And it literally took me less than two minutes to empty the entire dishwasher. I'm so thankful I have all these clothes to put away or I'm so thankful that I have so many clothes that I can share them with other people who need them more than I do. I am so thankful that we have two cars to wax. I'm so thankful that we have a choice. I am so thankful that if one car breaks down we have one to fall back on. You can find something to be grateful for in every situation.

But just like if you want to complain about something, you will find something. If you want to be grateful for something you will find something and it is totally your call totally your call.

If you want to live a radically empowered radically amazing, radically joyful radically changed life. Then you will choose the things to be grateful for rather than complaining all the time.