How to handle disappointment
It comes to all of us. Disappointment can derail us or energize us. Your choice !
Disappointment comes to all of us.
And it can be so much during COVID. Right the loss of a job or the loss of normality, loss of a loved one. During the last few weeks, we lost our our beloved pet a poodle, she was 16 she was a part of our lives. And yes, that comes with disappointment that grief comes with disappointment. Maybe you've lost your job, maybe things have just changed. Maybe you're working from home and you never wanted to work from home. Or maybe you're working from home. And it isn't what you thought it would be. Or maybe you're entering back into the workforce. And that's not what you wanted to do. Maybe you had plans to do something and it didn't work out. For me recently, it was going through a speaking competition with Toastmasters and making it all the way to the semi finals, which is a huge thing. It was a huge accomplishment. And then finding out Wednesday that I was not going on to the final competition. disappointment. Yes, huge disappointment. In my past, what I would have done was said, Oh, it's okay, this is what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna do this, this and this, and I would have breezed right past it. But not really breezing right past it. That would have actually been me shoving down the emotions. And then they would surface at a much later time, in a much in a not nice way. It's like when you you push all those emotions down and then you explode at something that's totally unrelated because you never dealt with those emotions.
So I'm going to give you some steps on dealing with that disappointment. Because disappointment is going to come into your life. No one gets no thanks for joining into as you're coming on. No one gets out of life without facing disappointment. So we may as well learn how to deal with a Christine. We may as well learn how to deal with those disappointments rather than shoving them down and never dealing with them or having them explode at a very inopportune moment. So the first thing to do when you've got this disappointment that comes into your life is Feel it. Feel every emotion and every feeling that comes with that disappointment. let yourself feel the grief, let yourself feel the sadness, let yourself cry. Let yourself do feel all those feelings, it's important to acknowledge, hey, that hurt. That hurt. I didn't advance on and I'll use myself as this example.
In my example, it was very disappointing to find out I wasn't going on to the finals, I worked hard on this competition. Every level, I worked hard to perfect my speaking, I worked with people I gave the speeches over and over and got feedback and tweaked them, I was disappointed, extremely disappointed. And I allowed myself to feel those feelings, to feel that disappointment to feel that sadness.
Feel them.
#2 Take care of yourself, do some self care, put some things aside and let yourself walk through those feelings by taking care of you take care of you. And for me, that meant sitting in a tub with a bath bomb and reading a book and just taking care of me.
#3 And the third thing is to get back up, get back up, allow yourself a time to feel a time to self care and they get back up and do what you were created to do. For me it opened up some time and so I joined a challenge and got going and found out that that was something I really wanted to do and I was able to dive in because that time had opened up now that I would have spent in the finals that time opened up so I got back up and I dove into something else but not until I allowed myself to feel those feelings and to dive in.
Alright, so let's recap, I was on a call with Kayla when I got the news about Toastmasters. So we we did walk through those emotions. We talked through those emotions and so feel your emotions, every single one of them. Take care of you take some time to just sit in those feelings and take care of you read a book, get in a tub with a bath bomb going, whatever it is that feeds your soul, do that and then reassess. You've got a different outlook now because something has happened something probably disappointment brings a catalyst. Take advantage of that catalyst.
Get back up and go three steps. You've got this. I love you. And we'll talk soon.